The Dark Side of Hustle Culture: Unmasking the Truth

Is the relentless grind truly the key to success? What if the hustle is costing you more than you realise? 

Ever felt the weight of constant busyness, only to question the real value of the hustle? 

Join host Anthony Hartcher as he sits down with guest Daniel Lawson in this enlightening episode of the me&my health up podcast. Together, they unravel the intricate web of 'hustle culture'.  

In a world where success is often measured by endless work and achievement, Anthony and Daniel shed light on the often overlooked dark side of this modern phenomenon. Discover the blurred boundaries between work and personal life, the illusion of time scarcity, and the biological impacts of being in a perpetual state of stress. 

This episode is not just an exploration; it's a call to redefine success on our terms, prioritising genuine well-being over mere busyness. If you've ever felt trapped in the hustle or questioned its real worth, this episode offers insights and strategies to navigate a balanced life amidst modern pressures.  

Tune in and challenge the norms of the 'hustle culture' that's deeply embedded in today's fast-paced world. 

 

About Daniel Lawson:  

• Daniel isn't just a man; he's a force in personal development. With a rich background in psychology and mindset coaching, he's uniquely equipped to guide high achievers to their zenith. 
• Graduate of the International Coaching Institute, Daniel's commitment to excellence is further validated by top accreditations from the International Coach Guild. 
• His expertise spans various modalities, including Meta Dynamics, Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), and Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS). For him, personal development is an exhilarating journey, a deep dive into oneself to rewrite limiting scripts. 
• Daniel has showcased leadership across sectors like logistics, technology, HR, and hospitality. He's the force behind ventures like Parallaxx Apparel, inspired by watersports' energy, and Parallaxx Transformations, dedicated to personal growth. 
• As a consultant, facilitator, and community leader, Daniel's mission is clear: make transformation accessible. He ignites a spark in individuals, enabling them to break free from limitations and embrace their utmost potential. For Daniel, this isn't just a career; it's a life mission. He envisions a world transformed, one individual at a time, creating a ripple effect of positive change.
  
  

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Chapters

• 0:08 Redefining the concept of "busy" and prioritising values.
• 0:57 Toxic hustle culture and its impact on mental health.
• 5:18 Hustle culture, values, and relationships.
• 6:33 Personal growth and values.
• 9:17 [Ad] Screen Deep
• 9:57 (Cont.) Personal growth and values.
• 11:49 Prioritising values and setting boundaries for fulfillment.
• 16:17 The lies of needing more money and time for fulfillment.
• 20:45 Reframing time as an experience, not a resource.
• 26:10 Time management and self-awareness.
• 31:58 Self-awareness and personal growth.

Transcript

Daniel Lawson: 0:08

busy, stressed and unfulfilled. And one of the first toxic that I put in there is if I'm not busy, it means that I'm lazy. And I've heard so many people say this, if I'm not busy, I'm lazy. So then what that means on the outside, if you've got this innate, but leave in silence, then what's happening is going out and just staying busy, grinding, grinding, grinding in whatever way feels comfortable, whoever doesn't feel comfortable, stressed, doesn't feel comfortable, but it feels comfortable. And that's what it is it used to. And so once we understand that, then then it means that we can shift into really what matters. So part of that, for me is boundaries. Part of that is priorities. And part of that is values. These are the pillars that allow me to then move away from this concept. And this is a bit controversial, I don't believe balance exists, balance, people seeking balance, let's say I want more balance in my life, work life balance, or relationship balance, or ever balanced.

Anthony Hartcher: 0:56

And that was Daniel Lawson, and you've landed on the me&my health up podcast. I'm your host, Anthony Hartcher. I'm a clinical nutritionist and lifestyle medicine specialist.

Daniel Lawson: 1:07

So good. Thank you for having me. It's lovely, The purpose of this podcast is to enhance and enlighten your well being. And today, Daniel's going to be doing that for you. We're going to be talking about the toxic hustle culture. And its effects on holistic wellbeing. Yes, the toxic hustle culture. And Daniel's experienced this, it's been there firsthand. He's also been a corporate strategist. And then he went on to create a parallax apparel. So he's quite into his entrepreneurship, which he calls adventurprenuer he is an adventurprenuer. And now he's a parallax transformation list. So now he coaches people to enhance and enlighten their wellbeing, particularly around mindset. So he's very much in the mindset coaching space, and we're talking about this toxic hustle culture, and how you can break free. So join me and Daniel, for this episode of me&my health up. Welcome on me&my health up podcast. How are you, Daniel Lawson? beautiful coming here, hang out and join you on your podcast. You're talking about such wonderful and fantastic topics.

Anthony Hartcher: 2:18

Yeah, I'm really intrigued to what you have are raised as a topic for today in terms of that toxic hustle, bustle culture and how it's ruining our health and wellbeing so we'll certainly get into that topic. But before we

Daniel Lawson: 2:37

Adventurepreneur, Yeah, well, it's such a long story is I get asked that question all the time. It's like, what part that I share? I think what's going to be really relevant for today's conversation is that mindset around time, and how that ties into the hustle, the stress, the internal stress and how it affects our health. I was thinking about that it was just I run a program maybe three weeks ago, and it finally landed with it come like it goes all the way back to failing windows 10, 14 years old. And even through high school, you know, 15 16,17 and feeling like I didn't have enough time, like I was running out of time in my life. And already had this impending doom of death at like, as early as you know, my teenage years. And I was thinking, wow, where'd that come from? And I realised, yeah, there's so much to talk about in terms of how society is built out. But growing up in a single mother household and being demonstrated and being shown how to really make best use of the time and having to go out and do more for survive. And then later on in do, please share a bit of your backstory as to how you've life and having this thing ingrained and going through of arrived to what you're doing today as a adventurepreneur? which the corporate world traveled lots realise this

Anthony Hartcher: 3:43

An incredible story from in terms of your lifestyle wasn't working for me one because of the stress or two wasn't living up to my values broke, freed, so to speak from upbringing, and you know, seeing your mom so busy to keep the that got into entrepreneurship. And I realised it really exasperated the problem. Because getting into entrepreneurship, I food in front of you the shelter over your roof, and just you think it's one of the best ways to find out about personal development and find that insights about ourselves to really stretch our thinking. And one of the biggest strategies know, hustling and and essentially, it's ingrained in that I used was using my passion for building business and entrepreneurship or intrapreneurship. As I was you like in terms of, that's what you then took away, and you calling it, the lifestyle business to escape from life and what a beautiful distraction it was. I could escape from life hustled, and you succeeded, because you knew how to hustle with my hustle, my passion, my inspiration to do business and forget about my health and wellbeing my relationships. One and survive and great businesses. And that's what your of the stories I tell is women don't really like to be forgotten about after a day. It's not a great relationship mum was essentially doing and creating a livable family that building strategy, get back into my business two weeks later, message them and go, Hey, what's, what's going on? You want to go on a date. They're like what you ghost me for the worked for you, that would raise you successfully. And, and you last 2-3 weeks? And so it's really lead me on this personal development journey that got me into coaching and diving into translated that into, you know, I guess, then creating unpacking these constructs and something that maybe we can talk about today also is the impact of stress and how stress is you businesses and instead of working on, you know, generating probably have better statistics round about what the biggest impact is on our health and wellbeing and how stress is such a family and building a successful family, you turned an internal concept. It's not the outside world that really creates stress, it's our internal representation of the that into building a successful business through that hustle outside world that creates that stress. And that leads me on this really wonderful path in terms of coaching others, but nature that your mom sort of shared with you. But then you self discovery as well through. realise the other side of that hustling is as a consequence, health can deteriorate, relationships can deteriorate, you mentioned, obviously, forgetting about girls for a couple of weeks, and they're realising that has a consequence on the relationship. So obviously, you shared some great learnings and insight there in terms of that, you know, that hustling and, you know, forgetting or sort of ignoring it, because and you also touched on value. So let's start with your values as to how they are out of alignment with your values. So what do you value?

Daniel Lawson: 6:33

It's been a shift over a few years, I think values If we're going to change the world figures, in fact, we're is both really complex. But it's really simple as when I'm coaching with my clients. And I've had this a lot going, how do I determine what I value? And how and why is it important, for example, values is really just seeing well, it's where we're going to be in it for the long doesn't happen overnight, gonna putting our time and our effort, which is determining the results that we're getting. And I thought, I valued some really great things that when I realised our values is the conversation around values, it's just a conversation of pass away 50 years, 60 years old, compared to 90, 100, 120 consequence. And so there's no good values or bad values. It's just the values you're valuing where you're gonna put your time, your effort, energies in getting the results, and I realised I wasn't getting the results in what I thought I years old, and feeling great. Now that's an extra 30 or 40 found. So these became values in a wish or hope I could have that desire, I thought I valued relationships. But there I was neglecting all the important people in my life and not, you know, not going out and creating new connections. And so this is years to make an impact and a free difference in the world. So why I say it's been an evolution. It's been an evolution of awareness. And one of the big things when I discovered that my business building was just keeping me safe from feeling truly and utterly lonely, I realised I need to put my value of relationship about business. And the health is such an important pillar in the way that I shape when I did that, I made that my priority, then my relationships changed, everything changed. And as a result of that, my whole life changed because humans I think so much of our health and well being our mental well being our emotional well being and and my life like the 5 am Club. If you've heard that from Robin even our knowingness, if that's a word that we matter and unhealthy significance comes from reflecting back in relationships, and that delivered on my business at length, but my happiness and everything and what it is that's creating now, what I'm really valuing is, I change my values Sharma, that's something I've just I'm loving it. The moment I depending on what season of life I'm in what I'm really wanting to get in. So right now I'm like, I'm really valuing determination. And like this relentless drive, and this it's a part of hustle, but in a healthy and functional way to go got up yesterday was 4 am. This morning, it's 5am Get up, go and and create more of what it is that I wanted. My solid values is always in relationships, it's always in learning and growth, it's always in contribution. And it's a lot of it is in health and well being because dead people don't change the world. do my 20 minutes of like hard exercise first thing in the morning. My girlfriend hates that. She's like, You're crazy. I'm like, really? It's so good.

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Anthony Hartcher: 10:25

Fantastic. Yeah. So you touched on a point which I found intriguing was The determination determination to create something, can and how differing that is from a toxic sort of hustle bustle hustling. So if you want to just share with the listeners how that is differentiated in terms of how you see your determination in a drive that's important to you, versus what you've found yourself in previously, which was a toxic hustle bustle sort of doing

Daniel Lawson: 10:54

Yeah, it's a really good question, I'd love to share this. So going into a hustle culture, I think is a lot of hustle culture comes from this, this toxic lies. So recently, actually, right now just publishing a book three toxic as I create, I gotta remember the negative three toxic liars that keeps you busy, stressed and unfulfilled, I've got a couple of and one of the first toxic that I put in there is if I'm not busy, it means that I'm lazy. And I've heard so many people say this, if I'm not busy, I'm lazy. So then what that means on the outside, if we've got this innate belief in silence, then what's happening is going out and just staying busy, grinding, grinding, grinding, in whatever way feels comfortable, whoever doesn't feel comfortable, stress doesn't feel comfortable, but it feels comfortable with when as it used to. And so once we understand that, then it means that we can shift into really what matters. So part of that, for me is boundaries. And part of that is priorities. And part of that is values. These are the pillars that allow me to then move away from this concept. And this is a bit controversial, I don't believe balance exists, balance, people seeking balance which I want more balance in my life, work life balance, a relationship balance, or whatever balanced to me. And sure anyone can argue that this is just my belief, balance to me is meaning like kind of 50/50 I'm gonna go a little bit in here and a little bit in here and a little bit in here. That sounds to me like you're half asking everything. Whereas I don't want balance, I want to have it all and how having it all looks in my life is going 100% in on what it is that looking at. So I bring this relentless determination, this drive this motivation, I'm here with you right now, I'm going to shove up 100% And do that once it finishes, I'll go away and take care of the next thing, I'm going to 100% and my girlfriend breaks up 100% with the heavy coffee, have breakfast, talk about that day, and I'm all in no distractions or phones or anything else that's going on. And so that's how it looks in my world. I'm like, in order to do that I need boundaries in place she knows don't come and disturb me when I'm working. And it's it's important that I'm working, I'm doing it. And we have time and allocated time allocated. Within that, I think behavioral flexibility is really important because like never goes away there. So I've got my intention to go all in, but then also to go, I can imagine people that have kids, I don't have kids. But wow, that must add a whole another challenge within that. So we're doing the best we can, of course that so the difference. The nuance between the relentless determination within hustle culture is like I'm gonna jack myself up and coffee 15 coffees a day and go and do 17 hours of work. And then at the end of it feels so spent all I can do asleep. And I'll wake up and do that again the next day. But do that for 12 hours, I mean, 12 days straight, and then realise, burnt out and grind. It's 100% on that. But we've neglected and abandoned all other areas of life. So a trust that creates a bit of a contrast between how it is that I approach it,

Anthony Hartcher: 13:36

Absolutely, I can see that you're all then giving 100% to things that are really important to you that you value. And then obviously creating a boundaries around the things that aren't important to that are distractions to you putting 100% into what's important to you. And I can see how that then is different to the hustle culture, because it's just doing what everyone else is doing. It's just copying it, whether they value it or not. And it's most likely they're stressed because they're doing things that have low value to them. But putting in seven, eight hours and thinking you know, they lose themselves in that process as opposed to you find fulfillment in giving 100% to something that's important to you because it's meaningful, whereas I can see the hustle culture is just copying everyone else. And because they're doing they're doing 17 hour days or something they find unfulfilling, then I should be doing 17 hours days to sort of fit in, right, it's

Daniel Lawson: 14:26

Yeah, but there's a lot of self abandonment that comes with that if we're not doing something that truly aligns with who it is that we are, we end up neglecting our own needs. That's a really great conversation. I haven't had it for a while I did some programs around it was the self esteem tried boundaries, needs and emotions boundaries are so important. And I see this with a lot of high achieving over overperforming or overachieving people and we see this a lot within successful business owners, so successful entrepreneurs, business owners, CEOs, in relationships, we see a lot of woman doing this now as well when overachieving, taking care of everyone else's needs to the extent that there's nothing left in it for them and they are burnt out because inability to say no or the need to feel like they're significant. They belong they're important. I know that was me and that's to my pattern being an over functioning person because I want to be liked. I want to fit in I want to know that I met and so learning to know learning find out what's important to me creating a language around that and to then communicate it really invites boundaries, not about keeping people out boundaries are about allowing people when boundaries are out there and people in inviting them in the way that is going to work and fill personal needs in a relationship. I think when we do that together, and we're able to, you know, like a boundary, I see it as like a mesh, we can do that together and enjoy each other as well as it becomes much more healthy and functional. That's where we can use a lot of co-regulation, which is helping each other with the stress of the days of business and what comes up and just really start bringing out our emotional levels into harmonious state together, it's a really big conversation around that I just want to add.

Anthony Hartcher: 16:07

that's great. It's really helpful, I think, to the listeners in terms of hearing these insights that you're sharing. And I really like the three big lies sort of concept. So what's the, what's the other big lie that you've written about?

Daniel Lawson: 16:19

Yeah, well, the the other lies are about after with money. So I think the two main stress factors, I think, over arching pillars that I've noticed within the people that I've worked with, and in my own life, it is not enough time and not enough money, because things like that are the most two important resources. And so we want the hustle. If I'm not busy, I'm lazy, then I need to be really busy. What I'm going to be really busy, well, I gotta make money, because money is important resource that allows me to get more stuff. And beneath all of there, it's really coming. And this, this, the whole point of the book is really challenging the reader to go, well what's important to you. Because if you're going to be hustling, doing, just being busy, for the sake of being busy to distract yourself from your life, that's not going to ever give you what it is that you want, or you're going to be doing was creating way more stress within yourself and not really enjoying any of it. And if you're just going to be doing that I learned this concept of me about I lived in Bali for two years during the pandemic. And beautiful time. You know, I moved from Melbourne in 2020 when the pandemic sitting down from New Zealand, so I managed to get out of there, how'd you do that, and found its a loophole, they just lit me up. I was supposed to go to New Zealand, but I went to Bali and and we joke that like Bali and COVID didn't exist. And it's just a much more relaxed on the roads. And what I found there, though, is that, okay, you can go to Bali, especially during the pandemic, and money is not really a problem every I love how it levels, the playing field, no matter how much or little money you got, everyone rides around on a scooter, it's kind of the same, we will go to the same kind of bars, dress in our Western eyes closed, or whatever it is that we want, we can all have three meals and 10 cocktails and just like anyone can really afford and if you're living there, so no one's better. No one's got their super cars or whatever. So levels, the playing field and a lot ways I had the cleaners taking, you know, five days, seven days a week at the pool and everything else. And that's when I realised that, wow, I've been spending all this time learning money to get more time. Now I've got the time I don't need the money, I feel more empty than ever. And I didn't again, coming back to my pattern of relationships and going well, what's really important that I felt like well, no one's inviting me to the parties. Well, that's what I was telling myself at least no one's thinking about me. But then there's wondering how I'll shut up. So the second lie is around going if I earn more money or solve my problems. And so in figure I do, I'm moving more into peak performance coaching. So working with seven figure business entrepreneurs. And what I realised is it's the exact same coaching is what I did when I first started out and entrepreneurship different segment of the market. Sure, but the money is not the problem anymore. Now it's time to face the real problems in my life. And in the message that I'd love to share with people is don't need to wait until you got a million dollars in the bank or a seven figure business to realise how that's just that was just my strategy to distract myself from the underlying challenges. So if you've got the insights and you've got an inkling, I think everyone has that whisper inside that's telling them there's something not right here, whether that's coming out in the form of stress, whether it's coming out of frustration, or anger or a sense of loneliness, or compulsive behavior, compulsive behaviors or addictions, we can tackle that right now. And the sooner we do it, the more life we've got left to it shortly that transformation is.

Anthony Hartcher: 19:39

Because it's all related to the toxic hustle and bustle, right? It's yeah, surely more money and hopefully revealing, you know, to have more time. And then as you said, Well, you found the time and then you felt unfulfilled more than ever. So it was sort of, well, I've got the time but I'm still feeling very unfulfilled and now you've you know, you've circled back to doing what's meaningful to you and and then you feel fulfilled when you're doing something that's meaningful to you. That's based on your values. And I think that's where you're at the moment and as a result of doing something that's meaningful, and that serving humanity or society is that you'll develop money as a result of that just a byproduct by helping others and fulfilling their needs and you get paid doing something that's meaningful to you and adding value to their lives and you get rewarded in the form of monetary which And but you're not chasing the money, so to speak, you're just doing everyday living every day by what's most important to you.

Daniel Lawson: 20:36

Yeah. And leaning in want to discovering what's important is that when I created the idea of entrapreneurship, I didn't like the idea of entrepreneurship because it seemed a little bit egotistical and self centered and what was demonstrated to me at least I didn't like the concepts I was going to come up with a new word or new term, or what am I going to call myself and I love adventure. I love kiteboarding I love riding motorbikes. I love going out climbing mountains and going skydiving and anything that has a bit of adrenaline over the speed or something. I mean, give it to me a race car for racing cars and everything. And then I like, Well, life is really because when I unpacked what adventure mean, to me, it was about going and stepping into that uncertainty, not quite knowing where the destination is going on a journey just to find out what's next. It's a bit scary at times, and but it's pretty exciting. And I was like, Well, that's what life is. And when I got into personal development, I realised that's what personal development is, the journey within us be the most exhilarating, exciting, scary, and no one journeys that I think anyone could go on, it's certainly for me, and the people that I work with, they go dad, like this is really uncomfortable, like good. I promise, you're gonna keep it uncomfortable, because it's where the growth is gonna get out of a comfort zone. So that's what I've created of entrepreneurship and got into building adventure lifestyle businesses around that, and one of the biggest concepts that I continue to touch back on, and I'd love to share this with you, and how we can do this here on the podcast for your listeners is around time. And the old notion of time as a resource time as a commodity time is something that needs to be traded. I kind of look at that and go Well, sure my time is running out. Is it useful to be focusing on that? I don't know whether it is because it's coming from a scarcity mindset. And as soon as we have a scarcity mindset of its limited, and then are going to trade it for money, it puts a pressure on it, that then starts creating the stress. And I was looking at to me a little while and I was thinking about it and kind of like what comedians do when they point it's like the accepted mundane thing, they point to it and then laugh at it. And it's like, oh, yeah, that is really ridiculous. And I was like, it's kinda like that with time, how can we look at it differently? And I thought, Well, what about if time isn't a resource? What if it's not a commodity? What if we reframe and then change time to be an experience? And rather than investing time into things we extract experience from a life? I like the saying, what was it? We don't it's not that you don't have enough time in your life, you just don't have enough life in your time. So we all got the fixed amount of time in our life. And what about if we just reframe it's an amazing equalize, everyone's got the same avatar. And so the time that we have available, what if we extract more life out of that? What is it that we really want to experience people walking around, I'm not against the corporate world. I'm not against having a nine to five job I work with lots of people that I love that they turn up to the spreadsheets, the data analysis 10 hours a day, and they do it in a healthy functional way. And they love it. That's what lights them up. And like you do you we need people like you that are creating experience. That's what that's that's what lights them up. And so, versus a lot of people complaining about the jobs feeling stressed and overwhelmed and busy and frustrated, and Time's running out guilty of saying no, or feeling isolated and alienated or lacking a sense of fulfillment, accomplishment, success, and unlike and you're trying to do more to escape that What about it, just focus on creating the experience that you want, and extracting that out of that time is not going to be a shooting experience is what it is that we're going to be creating. And that's been a major reframe that has transformed my life for sure. And the people that I've worked with,

Anthony Hartcher: 24:10

absolutely because in that process adding years to your life, you're actually generating more time because you're less stressed about what you spend your time Why did you have already experiencing and living it and experiencing a concept called you stress which is it which is good stress as opposed to distress so I think what you're relating to the other one is distress when we're trading time for money but when we're experiencing time and living a fulfilled life based on our values or what's meaningful to us, then we are actually in use stress. So we were in that real adaptable state as opposed to in that distress state and really creating you know, physiological symptoms as a result of being distressed and disordered and whereas you're in this nice zone so to speak, and doing things that you know doing or focusing on your priorities what's important to you

Daniel Lawson: 24:58

yeah, I love that never heard that term before. I'm gonna start using it I love it. I love what you shared it because it tying it back to like our neuro chemicals and our neural biology when it when we're doing what it is that we want and creating that healthy stress that we need. It releases the dopamine, serotonin and the great things that create curiosity. One of the things that I'm loving in peak performance coaching at the moment is I don't know whether you call it biohacking, but using our neuro chemistry to do the heavy lifting for us. So that's I think when people ask like how do you get up at 5am and not feel tired? Well, I do feel tired. Like this morning, my brain is telling me just go back to sleep, it's easier. But then when I don't listen to that I choose the voice that goes get up visual for better for it. And by the time on my second round of push ups and squats and everything else, I've got this like it takes over, then I'm like, I want to do more. And this is easy, because I've released the neuro chemicals that is going, you're winning, keep going, This is awesome. And so we could use our natural biology to make life easy for us and exciting and motivating and energising and all the things that said we want to feel,

Anthony Hartcher: 26:01

it's also always associated neurons that you have connected with meaning like so that getting up at five and doing the exercise is part of your routine to have that meaningful day and you know, fulfill your client's needs and to extract maximum amount of value for them and helping them live fulfilled lives. And that's fulfilling to you because you know, you're delivering value to other people. And, yeah, I think that personally, I have all those associated neurons that then you know, that creates oxytocin, because you really, you know, you're connected with what you're doing. You love what you do, as opposed to, you know, just doing it for the sake of doing it. And it's not really a priority, then that, you know, releases stress, right, it releases all the norepinephrine and epinephrine and cortisol and once you've got those, you know, all the love chemistry, so to speak, the serotonin and the oxytocin, the dopamine, it's secretly

Daniel Lawson: 26:57

I'm in love with getting up at 5am. Seriously. So excited. It sounds ridiculous. Like, I definitely wouldn't be doing that. But like, I'm waking up, I don't even set my alarm. Now I just get up because I trust my body to wake up that wants to wake up. And I look at the time this morning, okay, it was called a pass port. I've been waking up at 4am for the last three days. I'm like, really? I'm gonna do five and then I woke up a quarter past five. Cool. Let's do this in love with. So good.

Anthony Hartcher: 27:20

Yeah, it's fantastic to hear, you know, I guess reflecting back in terms of your journey and what you've learned, what sort of words would you like to impart of wisdom? Well, obviously, you shared a lot of gems with them so far, but I guess summing up in terms of you know, what you've shared a lot, but maybe just summarise them and and make it very succinct and and how would you advise the listeners to go out and start because obviously, it's, you've been on quite a journey, you've done a lot of self reflection, a lot of reading a lot of researching and understanding yourself and how you work and how humans work and all that. So you've obviously put the work into yourself, but where would you recommend someone else to start? Like, it's that that starting point,

Daniel Lawson: 28:03

the starting point always becomes, I guess, with your listeners here, they've already got a sense of awareness. Otherwise, it wouldn't be listening to this kind of podcast, more awarenesses always gives us more perspective. As we increase our awareness, we create more perspective grids more choice with more choice, we can take different actions. And so I'm a huge fan of creating more awareness and stretching, what it is that we know, personally, with what I mentioned before, in terms of that mindset, shift of going time is not a commodity, but rather the internal experience our like, if anyone's stressed or feeling burnt out, or not having enough time, that's a really great shift to switch. Because switching that around, what we're doing is we're taking it internally, and then we can take responsibility for the way it is that we're choosing to show up in the world of awareness and taking responsibility for what it is that we want to change is always my go to when I'm coaching, that's where I'm helping clients go is becoming cause for the life and the challenges that they're experiencing. And so what that means is we can start choosing to notice our thoughts, choosing our actions, choosing to notice what voices we're listening to. We've all got crazy, ridiculous voices. Anyone listen to this, you're not alone with this stupid stuff that comes out. We've all got those. But it becomes our responsibility to choose which ones are going to empower us in accordance with our values and the outcomes. What is it we want to create? We don't manage time, we don't need more time management, there's so much go to the corporate world go to any world and everyone's talking about time management isn't working. We don't manage time we manage decisions. So decide what it is the outcome that it is that you want, take responsibility for what it is that you're shaping in your internal thoughts and your actions and your feeling do something about that a lack of time for me is an indication that I don't really know what's important. And so that's what's coming up for me when somebody comes into a coaching session saying I'm feeling stressed and don't have enough time I'm like, isn't that you don't have enough time, or you're just not choosing to notice the time that you've got. And so all cause on that and always goes you know, why leave layers deep into personal stuff that we're not going to open up here. That would be the starting point. And so one really great exercise is I like the whole thing of understanding extend to listen to the time mindset. So every time you catch yourself saying I don't have enough time, it feels like time is running out. There's not enough hours in the day. I'm always so busy and never get enough done. Whatever comes up is make a note of there it is write it down and start categorising Like the top five, top 10, or however most people are going to have maybe five to seven easy go to ones and start telling notice how many times you're saying that they're thinking some version of that yourself. And that builds awareness around. Wow, my time mindset is really dictating the experience in life. And then once you become aware of it, switch it, switch have somebody else. And so it could look like a positive affirmation to some, but it's just choosing to notice what it is that you're going to be listening to. So I have a lot of exciting things going on in my life rather than I'm so busy. I have a lot of exciting things going on. I prioritise my time effectively to get results that it is that are important. You know, I carve out time for self care, the things that we've been remainders to ourself to focus on what's really important, as we start to shift that reality changes so fast the way that we see a large change. So that's that's the starting point that a more we talked about in the book, but where I challenged my clients, we did a four week accelerator program, or and that was the elite by four week challenge. And it was it blew me away that how much everyone's lives changed. As a result, I just tested it based on the theories that I was putting in the book. And I was like, wow, that's really powerful. And so the human mind is incredible. Human Biology is incredible. With the awareness, we really can create and change anything that it is that we want to create, everything's made up, nothing's real, we can make up whatever it is that we want to create a new job after.

Anthony Hartcher: 31:51

So very true. I love what you've just shared. It's been very insightful, and particularly around just noticing your language and being self aware, as opposed to running on autopilot and just saying it because everyone else is saying that really consciously knowing just doing doing doing and yeah, I really love to hear you sum that up in terms of noticing your language, putting some thought and reflection on that on your language that you're using. So really, thanks. I really appreciate your coming on and sharing your wisdom and insight. And for the listeners, how can they reach out to you I'm sure there's listeners out there that would love a coaching session with you or I'd love to read the book that you've just about to publish have or you mean you've published other books I know. So please, share with listeners how they can connect with you.

Daniel Lawson: 32:34

Yeah, the best way is probably can find me on Facebook Daniel Lawson Instagram, I'm on there, then most mobile sites probably the best place. That's where all the resources are held is parallax. So PARALLAXX sites parallax with a double x and then transformation dot com. There is the book that I'm publishing now there was a free PDF for the last few months. So that might be still available on there. There's some really cool quizzes to understand your behavioral profile and the way that you show up. So there's no good or bad, there's strengths. And then there's kryptonite. And it's the kryptonite. So the weaknesses are the structures that we focus on that we can start bringing more I don't want to say balance, but we want to balance to the way that it is ever showing up. Since there's a popular word there's yeah, there's all sorts of little journal articles. I've got a proper journal, there's ways that you can get involved as well, I've got a community so go and check out the website and see what's available there. It's always being updated its political sway and reach out personally responsible mountain messages myself, I'd love to engage in so you hear that awesome stories and the challenges that people are working through because it's so inspiring,

Anthony Hartcher: 33:36

fantastic listeners, I'll have all those links in the show notes. So you can just go directly to the show notes and connect with Daniel, however you'd like to connect with him whether you join the group or check out the website, follow him on Instagram, Facebook, whatever works best for you, but I suggest you connect with that Daniel he's got some terrific insight to share on life and how to how you can enhance and enlighten your wellbeing so really appreciate you coming on the show Daniel, you've shared amazing insight it's been really helpful for myself. So thank you

Daniel Lawson: 34:05

Amazing amazing thank you so much for being pleasure,

Anthony Hartcher: 34:07

You're welcome.

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